So Why Pearls & Poison...

In this world there are very few things that I love more than writing.

I'm not the best writer. I don't even write everyday. I'm not the most observant of grammar. I have never really cared. It has always been about the feeling. The ability to put what I need to say down on paper. Down somewhere. Let's be honest, sometimes my iPhone is a lot more handy than a pen and pad. But it has to go somewhere so it can get out of my head and stop haunting me in the middle of the night or in the middle of conversations. Words. Ideas. Melodies. Just the flow of something that I feel needs to be said. Something that hasn't been said the way that I need to say it.

There are so many songs about love. There are so many songs about heartache. But they aren't my songs. They aren't the words that keep me up at night. They aren't my feelings. They aren't my observations.

But this is what scares me. When people see my words, i'm afraid that they automatically feel that it's MY life i'm writing about. Well, in a way it is. But they're not always verbatim. I do have a creative mind. I do elaborate. I do put more into my words than just my personal feelings or just my observations. Please, don't feel sorry for me when you read my words. Feel happy for me that I was able to put them on to paper to make you feel that sorrow. To make you say, "that made me want to cry" or "Oh my God Dana, did that really happen?" 

People ask us constantly, well, men ask us constantly, "so, which one is pearls and which one is poison?" — my answer, neither and both. We write love songs. We write breakup songs. The ups, the downs, the joy and the heartache. That's what Pearls & Poison is about. That's what it means. We write about that moment when the gifts come, when everything is perfect and then we write about when it all falls apart in one way or another. There's always that moment in every relationship when you just wish the other person would just disappear; even just for a second. That's the poison. It's either that thought that crosses your mind, or that moment when you want to just scream for that person to just have never stepped foot into your life. It's the craziness between the two extremes. The love and the hate. The pearls and the poison.

I love writing. It keeps me sane. It's my outlet. But it's not my life to a tee. I do kinda consider myself creative. My husband gets mad sometimes when a song comes. He's never understood the writing part. To him they're just words on a page. He doesn't understand. When I listen to a song, I only hear the words. The music part comes later for me. The words are what pull me in. People relate. They know that not everything can always be flowers, hearts, and roses. The shit happens, and if no one else will write about it, I damn well will.

So please don't feel sorry for me when you hear our songs. It's my therapy. It's my ability to see how your relationships are going too. So, if you find me watching your interactions one day, or counting on my fingers as I have a pen in hand or my iPhone, there's probably a song being written, and it might just be about you, not me. There's no better feeling than when it just clicks. I'm so glad that I can make you feel emotional. I hope I always can.

I'm Obsessed...

Do you ever look at your iPhone and think to yourself, "this is so much cooler than Back to the Future"— I do, all the time.  For some reason I compare my iPhone to things I grew up watching in that movie.  For some reason, it's my benchmark for all things that I thought the future would be.  

The other day, with nothing on TV, the hubby and I started watching parts one and two and all I could think to myself is that my iPhone is so much cooler than anything that Spielberg thought of in this movie.  Then of course I thought to myself, "whoa, what happened to the first Jennifer?" 

Isn't it funny that I instantly looked it up on my iPhone.  Now, how cool is that?  You know how long it would have taken me to find out that information if I wondered this in like 1995?  What a good daughter she was!

I'm obsessed with my iPhone. I love FaceTime.  I think everyone in the world should have an iPhone and FaceTime- then maybe we all wouldn't miss out on watching our families grow up and then we wouldn't grow a part.  Those stupid commercials that introduced FaceTime, they made me bawl my eyes out every time!

Then of course there is Words with Friends— the whole reason I needed a Lifeproof case so I could still play while taking a bath.  Yup, I'm that obsessed!

I just think to myself, look how far we've come!  Can you believe that we have these little computers/phones in our pockets?  We can literally look up anything at any moment.  I think to myself that my grandparents would have never of believed the technology we have today because I can't even believe it.  I wonder what kids today will see over their lifetime!  I bet they watch Back to the Future and laugh; Me, I'm beyond amazed, but I'm still waiting for my iPhone to flip out some holigrams, then I'll be beyond impressed!